Mental Health

Tomorrow is the ‘Mental Health Day’. I would love to speak my heart out in accordance of this day.

What mental health means? Why mental health is so important? Is mental illness means you’re mentally retorted? And why we need to focus on mental health issues?

Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices. Mental health is important at every stage of life, from childhood and adolescence through adulthood.

Over the course of your life, if you experience mental health problems, your thinking, mood, and behavior could be affected. Mental health problems are common but help is available. People with mental health problems are not mentally retorted. People with mental health problems can get better and many recover completely.

Being a victim of psychological problem, I have been through a roller costar of emotions. I know exactly how it feels like. I know how it feels when you find a no way out. I know how it feels when you keep thinking about your failures and problems. I know how it feels when you think you’re worthless, hopeless and helpless. But there’s no magic which can give you a peace of mind. It only gets better when you get better.

When life knocks you down, you lose your worthiness, hopes and dreams. You expect from people around you to pick you up and show you how much important you’re to them and how much good you can do in your life. But instead of getting all of this you face disappointment and criticism. People mock you in front of your face. And you lock up yourself into a cage of misery and disappointment. And then you need a star to lighten up your dark clouded life but you know what there no star except YOU is. You can lighten up your whole life in a single blink because you don’t know how much spark and light you’re holding into yourself. Depression, Anxiety and stress all these are nothing more than mind games.

When I was suffering from all this I felt I have lost the meaning of life and this darker phase is never gonna end. I felt that I’m the most useless and worthless person in the whole while world. I’d spend months and years thinking about what I’ve lost in my life and what I was unable to achieve. But one day, I realized that no one is suffering with all this except me. Everyone is doing its job and life is moving on and I’m still holding onto those things which happened to me in the past and I can’t change them. One thing I can do for myself is to make my today a better place to live in.

To all those who are going through all these psychological traumas, just remember one thing, you are not alone suffering from all this. There are billions of people out there who are nothing more than just like you. Don’t get affected so easily by the temporary situations and temporary traumas. I know bad incidents and traumas left a deep mark on your life but everything is temporary and there’s no door in the world without a key. So, find your door and unlock with its key because you have much to do in your life. You’re special and your life is precious. Don’t waste it over having regrets and disappointments. Fill your life with happiness and beautify it with love, courage and patience.

To all those who don’t have any psychological problem, just be kind to the people around you. If you’re not facing any of these problems it doesn’t give you a right to mock people who’re suffering. Don’t hard to them. If you can’t be helpful to them then leave them alone and stay quite instead of enjoying their pain. Try to avoid the verbal abuse and be helpful. This little effort of yours could make someone’s life better.

Spread love!


Kala Bagh Dam: the need of hour

1023112-DAMx-1452109577-326-640x480The Kala Bagh Dam, is a proposed Hydroelectric Dam on the Indus river at Kalabagh in the Mianwali District of Punjab Province in Pakistan. Intensely debated, if constructed the dam would have 3,600 megawatts (4,800,000 hp) of electricity generation capacity.


In December 2004, then President of Pakistan General Pervez Musharraf, announced that he would build the dam to serve the larger interest of Pakistan. However, on 26 May 2008, the Federal Minister for Water and Power of Pakistan, Raja Pervez Ashraf, said that the “Kalabagh Dam would not be constructed” and that the project had been cancelled due to “opposition from Khyber Pakhtunkhwa, Sindh and other stakeholders, the project was no longer feasible”.

Importance of Kalabagh Dam

Kalabagh Dam Project would be located on river Indus 100 miles south-west of Pakistan’s capital Islamabad.
This multi-purpose project would have a live storage capacity of 6.1 million acre feet (MAF).Besides making up for the capacity loss in reservoirs, it
would make substantial contribution to firming up the irrigation supplies not only for new projects but additional allocation agreed by the provinces
under Water Apportionment Accord (WAA) of 1991. Further, it would add a large amount of cheap hydropower to the National Grid through its 2400
MW (Ultimate 3600 MW) installed power.

  •  Replacing storage lost by sedimentation in existing reservoirs at Mangala, Chashma and Tarbala (estimated about 3 MAF by the year
  •  Providing additional storage to meet existing water shortages during early Kharif sowing period of April-June (particularly critical for
    cotton crop in Sindh).
  •  Providing effective regulation of Indus River to meet additional Kharif allocations of the provinces under WAA, 1991.
  •  Regulation and control of high flood peaks in the Indus to enable provision of perennial tube well irrigation to the rive rain area in
  • Generating a large chunk of hydro-power for meeting the growing demand of agricultural, industrial and domestic consumers through
    low cost option.
  • Reducing dependence on imported fuels.
  • Creating employment for 30,000 persons during construction and significant numbers after commissioning.

Project Benefits:

Kalabagh would store surplus water in the flood season and make it available for controlled utilization during the low flow season. This water
would thus be used for sowing and final maturing of the Kharif crops and entire Rabi crops.
Irrigation oriented operation of the project gives the highest overall economic return. Thus the full live storage of 6.1MAF would be available for
guaranteeing assured irrigation supplies throughout the year including replacement of the storage loss on the three existing reservoirs.


Kalabagh with its installed capacity of 2400 MW (ultimate 3600 MW) would add to the system a very large chunk of cheap hydro-power. In an
average year, 11413 million kilowatts hours (MKWh’s) of electricity would be generated at Kalabagh. Further, as a result of conjunctive operation
an additional 336 million MKWh’s and up to 600 megawatts (MW) of additional peak power would be generated at Tarbela. To put these figures in
perspective, if Kalabagh was in position today, there would have been no load-shedding in Pakistan.
The energy generated at Kalabagh would be equivalent to 20 million barrels of oil per year.

Flood Alleviation:

Kalabagh would reduce the frequency and severity of flooding along the Indus particularly between the dam site and Indus/Punjab confluence, 300
miles downstream.
For the rive rain areas lower down in Sindh, it would enable conversation of the existing ‘Sailaba’ areas to the year round tube well irrigation.

Overall Benefits:

On a conservation basis, the overall direct benefits of Kalabagh Dam would be around Rs. 25 billion per annum. Thus the investment cost of project
would be repaid within a very short period of 9-10 years.

Consequences of not building kalabagh dam:

  • National food security would be jeopardized, thus subjecting the economy to additional burden of importing food grains.
  •  Loss of storage capacity of the on-line reservoir due to sedimentation would result in shortage of committed irrigation supplies
    causing serious drop even in existing agriculture production.
  •  For implementation of Water Apportionment Accord 1991, a new storage project like Kalabagh is essential. In its absence it would
    give rise to bitter inter-provincial disputes and recriminations particularly in a dry water year. Dispute between Punjab and Sindh on
    shortage of about 0.2 MAF water during Rabi maturing/Kharif sowing 1993-94 should be eye-opener. It may be worth mentioning that
    Rabi 1993-94 had a normal river inflow pattern.
  • The annual energy generated at Kalabagh is equivalent to 20 million barrels of oil. This annual import of fuel for thermal generation,
    including augmentation of transportation infrastructure, would be an additional burden to the economy.
  • Growth of domestic industrial and agriculture sectors would be impended due to high power costs.

The overall climatic change of Pakistan has slowed down melting of the snow from mountains, thus reducing flow of rivers and leaving very little water for the winter crops (Kharif) in Punjab as well as Sindh. In the wake of this scenario, construction of high dams in the country is assuming highest priority as irrigated agriculture is the backbone of Pakistan’s economy.

If nothing is done, there would be approximately 18% shortfall in irrigation water supply and Pakistan will turn into a water-scarce country. Due to complete stoppage of any sizeable surface water resources development, the sustainability of existing irrigated agriculture is in serious jeopardy.

With a large arable land, Pakistan still has the potential of bringing several million acres of virgin land under irrigation. An important impediment in the way of this development is insufficient control over flood water of the rivers and let go large quantities of water into the sea.


The kalabagh Dam is not onlu beneficial to Punjab, but it would be more helpful in erasing poverty KPK, as it would irrigate 800,000 acres of cultivable land that is located 100-150 feet above the level of Indus river. Large scale injection of cheap Kalabagh hydropower would help to keep cost of electricity within affordability of the consumers.

It is ready to construct but it is impossible to construct due to political eye view.


Emotional Intelligence


Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and emotions of others. In practical terms, this means being aware that our emotions can drive our behavior and impact people ( positively and negatively ), and learning how to manage those emotions – both our own and others – especially when we are under pressure and in stressful conditions.

For most people, emotional intelligence (EQ) is more important than one’s intelligence (IQ) in attaining success in their lives and careers. As individuals our success and the success of the profession today depend on our ability to read other people’s signals and react appropriately to them. Therefore, each one of us must develop the mature emotional intelligence skills required to better understand, empathize and negotiate with other people — particularly as the economy has become more global. Otherwise, success will elude us in our lives and careers.


Your EQ is the level of your ability to understand other people, what motivates them and how to work cooperatively with them,” says Howard Gardner, the influential Harvard theorist.

Five Components of Emotional Intelligence:

Psychologist and best-selling author Daniel Goleman has suggested that there are five components critical to emotional intelligence.

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1. Self Awareness:

The ability to recognize and understand your own emotions, is a critical part of emotional intelligence. Beyond just recognizing your emotions, however, is being aware of the effect of your own actions, moods, and emotions of other people. if you evaluate your emotions, you can manage them.

The major elements of self-awareness are:

  • Emotional awareness. Your ability to recognize your own emotions and their effects.
  • Self-confidence. Sureness about your self-worth and capabilities.self_awareness_1468168963-e1472474480916

2. Self-regulation:

Emotional intelligence requires you to be able to regulate and manage your emotions. This doesn’t mean putting emotions on lock-down and hiding your true feelings – it simply means waiting for the right time, place, and avenue to express your emotions. Self-regulation is all about expressing your emotions appropriately.


Self-regulation involves

  • Self-control.
  • Trustworthiness.
  • Conscientiousness.
  • Adaptability.
  • Innovation.


3. Motivation:

Motivation also plays a key role in emotional intelligence. People who are emotionally intelligent are motivated by things beyond mere external rewards like fame, money, recognition, and acclaim. Instead, they have a passion to fulfill their own inner needs and goals. They seek things that lead to internal rewards, experience flow from being totally in tune with an activity, and pursue peak experiences.

To motivate yourself for any achievement requires clear goals and a positive attitude. Although you may have a predisposition to either a positive or a negative attitude, you can with effort and practice learn to think more positively. If you catch negative thoughts as they occur, you can reframe them in more positive terms — which will help you achieve your goals.


Motivation is made up of:

  • Achievement drive.
  • Commitment.
  • Initiative.
  • Optimism.

4. Empathy:

Empathy, or the ability to understand how others are feeling, is absolutely critical to emotional intelligence. But this involves more than just being able to recognize the emotional states of others – it also involves your responses to people based on this information. When you sense that someone is feeling sad or hopeless, for example, it will likely influence how you respond to that individual. You might treat them with extra care and concern.


An empathetic person excels at:

  • Service orientation.
  • Political awareness.
  • Understanding others.

5. Social Skills:

Being able to interact well with others is another important aspect of emotional intelligence. In today’s always-connected world, everyone has immediate access to technical knowledge. Thus, “people skills” are even more important now because you must possess a high EQ to better understand, empathize and negotiate with others in a global economy.


Among the most useful skills are:

  • Influence.
  • Communication.
  • Leadership.
  • Building bonds.
  • Collaboration and cooperation.
  • Team capabilities.

What is Culture?


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Culture was defined earlier as the Language, beliefs, values, norms, behaviors, and material objects that are passed from one generation to the next. As this definition suggests there are two basic components of culture, ideas and symbols on one hand and artifacts ( material objects) on the other. The first type, called non-material culture, includes the values, beliefs, symbols, and language that defines society. Second type, called material culture, include all society’s physical objects, such as its tools and technology, clothing, eating utensils and means of transportation.


All cultures include symbols which confer meanings to things and events.

These symbols are expressed through what we call language. Language conveys the beliefs and values of a culture.

Values are ideas. These ideas are translated into norms which give us in concrete terms how we should behave.

Humans had acquired the ability to learn from others, and to copy, imitate and improve upon their actions. This meant that elements of culture themselves— ideas, languages, beliefs, songs, art, technologies— could act like genes, capable of being transmitted to others and reproduced. But unlike genes, these elements of culture could jump directly from one mind to another, short-cutting the normal genetic routes of transmission. And so our cultures came to define a second great system of inheritance, able to transmit knowledge down the generations.”

[From: Wired for Culture]

Your culture is like water and you are the fish.  You are mostly unaware of the cultural values you hold  until you interact with others of a different culture or learn of other cultures through education and investigation.  Your cultural matrix initially provide you with a world view, value system, and a way of interacting with people of your own culture with a almost esp like set of protocols.

Culture provides us with a structured set of social expectations that enable us to connect with others raised similarly. It gives us a set of norms, behaviors, rituals and symbols through which we can explore our identity. Often we need to reject and then re-embrace our culture in a different way as adults (like a “remix”) to feel like we have found ourselves.

Culture and personality:

 Culture refers to the shared values, beliefs and norms of specific group of people. Culture therefore, influences the manner we learn, live and behave. Because of this, many theorists believe that the culture is an important shaper of our personality.

Culture and Behavior: 

Culture as an influence of behavior takes the “nurture” side of the argument about influences of behavior. culture looks at the totality of any given society’s belief system, laws, mores, practices, language and attitudinal variables which makes a people unique from others. As you know, it is transmitted from one generation to the other. What happened when you are groomed in the ways of a particular culture?

You start acting and behaving in ways that are seen as appropriate to such a culture. Your dress sense, grooming, language, belief system and attitude become molded to fit into that society which makes you become accepted by them.


Cultural study is basic for every person. To understand your identity and existence, everyone should know the basics.

To understand your culture, you need to pay close attention to its quiet, sometimes hidden, manifestations, such as the side conversations in the hallways, the informal consultations behind closed doors, and the incisive guidance that people get when they ask one another for advice.”
[From: Stop Blaming Your Culture]

women is the root cause of all evils

The word “WOMEN” is the mixture of five latter which clearly describe the meaning of this word and explains that the woman is the root cause of all problems.
Basically woman is a emotional sort of personality who uses her heart instead of brain and as you know heart usually fails.In our practical life emotions and feelings doesn’t matter.Will power and determination is the need of hour.So the women can not do field jobs and work like men.
Women of our country are usually illiterate and superstitious as well. they don’t even have manners to manage a life.An un-educated cannot teach to her children how to live and the difference between good or bad.And this is the main cause of social William Faulkner said:
“Women do have an affinity for evil, for believing that no women is to be trusted, but the some men are too innocent to protect themselves”.
Women can destroy a nation because they are attracted towards money and status.And money is the main cause of all evils.they want more and more never live a contented life.
You can say that woman is the cause of Jesus Barraza said:
“Beauty of women is root of all evils,it makes men lose their minds.”
she has no confidence and not even perfect to fulfill their daily life duties Probably the most monumental of events is that of the creation of Adam and Eve and the temptation of the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil. Almost immediately in the beginning of the book, woman stirs up trouble and dooms all mankind. It is almost inevitable that the women created after such a tragedy should follow in Eve’s footsteps. Eve did not necessarily condemn herself and Adam and all humans to come by deceit or seduction. Her evil wrongdoing came in the form of temptation. As the serpent presented the option of tasting the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge. The solemn harshness of Eve’s punishment suggests that even God is most displeased with the woman. The story of Abraham and Sarah also depicts woman as a troublemaker. This time it is woman’s beauty that stirs up trouble.
At the end i just wanna say that women are crazy sort of creation. Dr john said that:
“women is the root cause of all evils”.

The role of women

The role and importance of women can never be denied .they are important as a mother, as a daughter, as a wife, as a social worker and as an employ.when she is a daughter she opens a door of jannah for her father.when she is a wife,she completes half of the DEEN of her husband.when she is a mother, Jannah lies under her feet.
A woman is a founder of healthy, educated and well developed society.she works from dawn to dusk to fulfill her duties and works.she have to done her work like a cloud who give heavy rain to paddy we can define the worth of women by these words said by Brigham Young:
“if you educate a woman,you educate a generation”.
As we all know that woman play an important role in success of a nation.Behind every successful person,there is mind of our QUAID said:
“no nation can rise to the glory unless your women are side by side with you”.
someone said that woman can’t do anything except love and they’ve given it a ridiculous importance and said that its an insignificant part of life.yeah women are emotional sort of personality but they proved themselves by giving the sacrifices to build a family and country strong.we have abeautiful example of Fatima Jinnah.A woman is as important as a sun who give light energy and heat at the same time by burning herself.Nelson Mandela said:
“freedom cannot be achieved unless the women have been emancipated from all forms of opperations”.

The role of the women now a days is very important becuase somehow all the society needs to now how is the role of the women through the different cultures in the world.
As Leanne Evale has mentioned that:
“Throughout the last 100-300 years the changes that women have seen and been affected by have been phenomenal. Women have gained a lot of ground in politics, the work force, and even more power within their own households. There was a time in history when women were unable to voice their opinion in politics being unable to cast a vote or run for office, and now in modern time there are more than one woman running in the presidential campaign. Now women and men can both be the bread winners, the stereotypical role place on women is slowly dissolving and both spouse parents are sharing the responsibilities that come with the house and family”.

The role of women in society has been greatly overseen in the last few decades but now are coming to a more perspective to people. In the early days women were seen as wives who were intended to cook, clean, and take care of the kids. They were not allowed to vote while men took care of having jobs and paying any bills that had to be paid.
Soon enough it caught on that women should have a bigger role than what other people thought women should have. Women would have strikes and go on marches to prove that they should have rights just like everyone else. They faced discrimination like and other race that faced it. Women would voice their opinion in any way possible so that they could reach their goal and they did.
Women have made vast improvements in their life styles in the past few decades from holding positions in governments to simple things like getting a job and supporting themselves.
cut the long story short by using the words of Mao Zedong,he said:
“in order to build a great socialist society it is of the utmost importance to arouse the broad masses of women to join in productive activity”.
so how can we say that “woman is the root cause of all problems.